Christmas in Aotearoa can be a whirlwind of emotions for many LGBTQ+ individuals. For some, it’s a joyous time filled with festive cheer and connection with loved ones. But for others, it can be a challenging reminder of complicated family dynamics, isolation, or the absence of acceptance from their biological families.
That’s where the beauty of chosen family comes in. In the LGBTQ+ community, chosen family is the network of friends, partners, mentors, and fellow LGBTQ+ individuals who provide love, support, and a sense of belonging. During the festive season, chosen family becomes an even more important source of strength and connection.
Here in Aotearoa, with its long history of LGBTQ+ activism and vibrant community spaces, chosen families have a unique opportunity to celebrate Christmas in a way that feels authentic and inclusive.
Here are some ways to make the most of Christmas with your chosen family in Aotearoa:
Create new traditions: Move away from the expectations of traditional Christmas and create new traditions that reflect the values and interests of your chosen whānau (family). This could involve anything from a potluck dinner with all your favorite people to a volunteer activity that gives back to your community.
Embrace the potluck: Christmas feasts are a big part of the festive season, but they can also be stressful. A potluck dinner is a great way to share the workload and ensure there’s something delicious for everyone to enjoy.
Celebrate your chosen family: Make your chosen family feel special by exchanging gifts, writing heartfelt cards, or simply spending quality time together. Let them know how much they mean to you.
Open your home to those who might be alone: If you know someone who might be spending Christmas alone, invite them to join your chosen family celebration. The holidays are a time for connection, and your invitation could make a real difference in someone’s life.
Seek out LGBTQ+ inclusive events: Many LGBTQ+ organizations and community centers host Christmas events that are specifically designed to be welcoming and inclusive. These events can be a great way to connect with other LGBTQ+ individuals and families who are also celebrating chosen family.
Remember, Christmas is about love, joy, and togetherness. By celebrating with your chosen family, you’re creating a space where you can be yourself, loved, and accepted for who you are.
Rainbow Republic wishes you and your chosen whānau a happy and safe Christmas!
Do you have any special traditions for celebrating Christmas with your chosen family? Share your stories in the comments below!
